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So, I just got back from a bridal shower filled with heaps of girls I didn't know and a few that I did know.

One thing that I became shockingly aware of as we discussed bridesmaid dresses and sizing was that I was not in the same category as these girls. Every single one of them was talking about the horrors of having to order a size four or a *gasp* size six dress so that they could be altered. Some girls were even in a bit of a tiff that they had to order size sixes when they were "obviously" not that big.

I wear a size ten in street clothes. However, I'm also 5'11". I'm not overweight or even chubby, but I'm not thin. I would describe myself as average.

The more I think about my wedding day and the way I want to look, the more I find myself sizing myself up against other girls. Yes, I'm tall, and yes, I'm not exactly built like a pixie, so how could I ever expect myself to fit into what these 5'2" girls are donning? But sometimes I find myself feeling a bit... this sounds so anti-everything-I-stand-for... in despair over my body!

Do ever you find yourself scrutinizing your appearance? Since when did how we look become the absolute measure of ourselves?

[lovepirate]

Oh i sooo agree!! I am not completely fit at the moment, and i'd like to be. I'm not small and never have been, but despite that, i actually LOVE my body. I think it's sexy and curvy. I just wish that I didn't feel like i'm 'letting myself go' by not constantly dieting and exercising!! I am 5'6" and 140 lbs. I have really long legs-35" for jeans and wide hips, (40").
Now, I am happy with myself, but when i hear girls half my size saying how fat they are, I hear "look how fat SHE is!"
It is so shallow and unimportatn. And I hate that despite my true feelings about myself, I am almost forced to have a pesimistic critical view of myself.
I thinkit is getting better though, the stick figure thing in the media with the 'heroin chic' look that was so popular in the mid 90's is phasing out for healthy looks. That's a start!

[teazel2]

I feel the same way sometimes. Especially at the bridal shows where none of the dresses would suit my type of body style. When my dress first come in I couldn't do it up at all... i hadn't gained anything since I ordered but the dress was not going to fit. It does up now which makes me really happy. All of my bridesmaids except one are size six and under and I kinda feel myself wonderig sometimes if I am going to look like the chubby one in the middle. Bah...

[beleebala]

I notice that men are more attracted to average-sized women than the skinny ones. But for some strange reason, women like to starve themselves into matchsticks.

I once heard this comment from a man:

"A girl that looks like the next gust of wind is going to snap her spine in half is not hot. No one's going to date you like that, you're just too high-maintenance; do you have any idea what an operation to fix your spine would cost? No one's even going to come near you when accidentally touching you means ten new stitches for that cut your ribs just made in my arm."

Having said the above, I do believe in exercise to keep the muscles strong and taut!

[Izzybelle]

I totally know how you feel! I swear there's just something about weddings that makes alot of girls feel insecure. I'm one of those naturally small girls (my mom was 106 lbs after 3 kids so it's in my genes) and in general I'm fairly happy with how I look. But after months of reading bridal magazines telling me I have to look perfect for my day I've turned into this insecure, looks-obsessed, pathetic girl. I feel ugly almost all the time and all of a sudden I'm seriously considering getting microdermabrasion and a nose job before the wedding (thank goodness I'm out of time!).

I let my bridesmaids pick their own dresses and they picked tight, sexy dresses and then one of them bought these ridiculous stilettos because she wants to "look like a model" for my wedding (she's also been telling me for months that she doesn't care about anything but looking "f-ing hot" for the wedding so I guess I should've expected it). Anyway, despite usually being a confident, secure woman, I am now convinced that I'm going to be the short, chubby, pasty-white girl with the huge nose in a dress I don't love surrounded by my super hot bridesmaids. I seriously don't know what's happened to me, but I can't wait for this stupid wedding to be over so I can feel like myself again!

[kat]

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