Inviting children to your wedding???? - Vancouver Wedding Forum

tanya777 · 2006-09-10, 10:40 PM

Hello Brides I am curious to hear from others if they are inviting children to there wedding. My big thing is. . . . .
A) EXTRA COST : where I am getting married children are 1/2 price but by the time you add it up it will be a good few extra hundred dollars . and

B) we want everyone to have a great night filled with drinks, dancing, laughing ect. kinda with out kids. (I find that people/parents go home early when kids are there)

By the time I walk down the aile my daughter will be 1 and half. She's a flower girl and will be at the wedding. Hey she's my daughter and I believe she definetly should be there.

What's everyone else doing?? kids or no kids that is the question. hahaha
Oh if you've opted for no kids how are you going about to tell the people whom have kids.
Thanks

lookin4ideas · 2006-09-11, 05:59 AM

The only kids that are invited to ours are our 1 neice and 5 nephews. Oh and one of my bridesmaids who'll be coming oin from Calgary but I figure her hubby won't know a soul other than her and I & will probably be bored to tears so he'll like having the baby with him. Anyone else who has kids - the invites say M______________ will be attending / not attending the second line the same
M______________ will be attending / not attending so I really hope they figure it out - now I am sitting here having visions lol - perhaps once we send out invites I will get my mom, sis & friends to mention it non cholontly (wow that's spelt wrong) to the couples invited that have kids - something like "oh you won't believe the nightmares Stacey is having, she drempt that everyone showed up with their kids and that she hadn't alloted food for them all & that everyone had to leave the wedding to go to KFC to have dinner".

Hopefully they don't replay with their names & their kids names lol!!

admin · 2006-09-11, 01:07 PM

What an interesting and practical question! I have added a poll above the messages, please cast your vote!

tanya777 · 2006-09-11, 01:19 PM

Thanks for adding the poll. That's was a great idea!!!!

younggreekbride · 2006-09-11, 10:40 PM

howcome I don't see the poll??

EDIT: OY, nevermind!!! lol, wow, interesting what I long day at school can do to you... :P

2times · 2007-02-07, 06:47 PM

I am completely in favour of the children attending a wedding IF they are involved in the wedding party, ie) ring bearer, flower girl, child of the bride and/or groom...

But, hire a sitter and let the adults have adult time.

Sometimes a wedding is a great way for couples to have a "date" night and maybe slow down & re-connect with their spouses or significant other.

Children don't need to be the centre of attention 24/7.

Parents can create a special evening at home for the kiddies while they attend the wedding.

And, yes, I do have children!

tanya777 · 2007-02-07, 07:55 PM

Yes I agree (with 2times) We have decided and is already in writing in the invites and the word is going around-NO CHILDREN!!

Don't get me wrong I love children (am a licenced preschool teacher) yet I believe this night should be a night to celabrate and have fun without any worries or distractions.

I do have a 15 month old (21m at wedding) she will be there and I think she should be there to see her mommy and daddy get married.

JoshaRU · 2007-02-07, 10:48 PM

I also thing that not having children at a wedding can be a great thing.

On the other hand, I will be inviting children to my wedding. They are a huge part of my life (I pretty much act like one still

and I have several cousins travelling with their family across the continent for my wedding! They are all so excited. I figure that if the parents want the night out, they can get a sitter and not take the kids, but if they want to bring them the option is there and usually they'll leave earlier than when the real frivolity ensues.

smilinggirl · 2007-08-18, 10:54 PM

We invited families and we found a lot of parents elected not to bring minors. The minors are my immediate family (nieces/nephews) and they are in the wedding party. We have preteens and teens also. We figured if we see these people regularly, invite them! After all, the important thing to remember it is a celebration. Kids also have a "hoot" dancing too. Try a pinata bashing game for them too! I found most people didn't mind the idea of leaving the kids with a sitter so the adults can play. I just gave the parents the option to involve the entire family.

Girly1986 · 2007-09-29, 10:17 PM

Children will be welcome at my wedding. If the parents don't want to have to watch over their kids during the wedding, then they can get a sitter. But if they enjoy spending time with their kids, and can watch over them, then there's no reason for them not to come.

What is "adult time"? To me, that sounds like "getting drunk time."
I think it would be really inappropriate to get that intoxicated at a wedding. People are so much more likely to do stupid things that will ruin the night if they are drunk.

Burnabybride · 2007-10-31, 09:37 PM

We opted not to have children at our wedding, in the end it came down to space at our venue. With the amount of children in our circle of family and friends we just didn't have enough space to invite all. I would have liked to have our neices and nephews present, but their parents really want a night out without kids and said they wouldn't bring even if they were given the option.

misslt · 2008-04-14, 07:28 PM

i did a google search for wedding invite etiquette, and found reply cards that had the line for the guest to write their name(s) and it was followed by the line:

two seats have been reserved for you
_____ accept _____ regrets

that way, they can't add in their kids as well...we're going with that wording on the few guests who may think their kids are invited as well. i also saw rsvp cards with 'adult reception' printed on the bottom of the card.