do I HAVE to walk down the aisle? - Vancouver Wedding Forum

jen m · 2007-03-30, 06:42 PM

I don't want a big "fru fru" wedding. Just something nice and simple with family and a few close friends. Ideally a backyard ceremony and cocktail type reception in the same place. Unfortunately we don't know anyone here with a nice enough backyard, so we found a nice heritage home with a lovely garden that will hold 50 people or so. The thing is I don't really want to walk down the aisle. Can FH and I just gather with the JP?
Is that lame? Any suggestions?

tanya777 · 2007-03-31, 01:38 PM

I say, It's your wedding and if you don't want to walk down the aile-Don't. I've never seen this done before so I don't really have any suggestions. Keep us posted. I'd like to hear what you've come up with.

beleebala · 2007-04-05, 11:03 AM

While some enjoy traditional weddings, I think it is refreshing to see some new ideas at a wedding. It is YOUR day of celebration, not to impress other people. So I say do whatever you like. I'm sure your friends/family will be happy for you no matter what the wedding is like.

lookin4ideas · 2007-04-10, 12:43 PM

This has me very curious how else would you get to the "top" without walking down the aisle?

The only thing I can think of is standing "up" there before the guests arrive until all of them are seated?

What were you thinking of doing? The reason i don't want to walk down the aisle is I am kind of shy & don't like making a big production out of things, but I thinking standing there watching everyone sit down would make me even more nervous.

It would make me want to hurl -

jen m · 2007-04-11, 03:36 PM

I am also shy and don't like being the centre of attention, even if it is just with my family and friends. And I guess I have "wedding issues". I have never really wanted to get married. Not that I have anything against marriage, just never felt it was necessary for me. I already consider FH as my husband and refer to him as such. We have been together for 7 years and are raising a family (2 of his kids from a previous marriage and we have one child together) We are happy and committed to each other. I am quite happy not getting married but I know that he wants to. Okay maybe too much information there, but if/when we do get married, then I just want it to be simple. I kind of thought that I would be at the house while people arrived and everyone could have drinks and maybe some appies while mingling for a while, (and maybe take some photos) and then when it was time for the ceremony, everyone just takes a seat while FH and I go to the front with the JP. The other thought I had after my first post was that all 3 kids and I would walk down the aisle together. I don't know. Anyway, with 3 kids the wedding planning takes a back seat to real life and things are going slowly.

lookin4ideas · 2007-04-12, 11:06 AM

I am different then you I want to get married & I want to have the wedding I just don't want everyone focused on me. I keep joking that I am going to hire a body double or take valium.

I get so nervous & excited for things like birthdays, other peoples wedding, events etc that the day of the event I am ready to throw up at any given moment and this is for other peoples event not my own. I was hoping you'd found a magical way for me to appear without having to walk past everyone (have everyone gawk at me). I think my mom & dad are walking me down the aisle so at least of have "body guards" on either side of me lol.

jen m · 2007-04-13, 08:14 PM

If I am already having such anxiety about this whole thing, and we haven't even officially set a date yet (likely next summer) then I think Valium may become my new best friend.

It is the whole thing with people gawking that has me nervous too. Sorry I didn't have any brilliant solutions for you. Although like you said, you will have your parents with you. Other than that, maybe you could wear really dark sunglasses walking down the aisle, so that you can't see. Or maybe get all the guests to wear the dark glasses so you can 't see them looking at you?

I'm sure once you start walking down the aisle and you see FH standing at the front waiting for you, all your focus will be on him
and all the gawkers will just "disappear." And if not, there is always the drugs!

lookin4ideas · 2007-04-16, 12:01 PM

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Originally Posted by jen m

Other than that, maybe you could wear really dark sunglasses walking down the aisle, so that you can't see. Or maybe get all the guests to wear the dark glasses so you can 't see them looking at you?

LOL I like that idea except for the fact that it's indoor ha ha ha, that would look great. Anyway I am sure I will get over it, if not our room will be right by the isle (we getting married in a hotel) that I could always duck back into the room & make everyone wait.

It'll all work out, I just need to get over it -

Taz · 2007-05-26, 05:31 PM

we're not doing the traditional thing either - my FH and I are walking down the "aisle" together and having all our guests stand at the ceremony

jen m · 2007-05-28, 08:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Taz

we're not doing the traditional thing either - my FH and I are walking down the "aisle" together and having all our guests stand at the ceremony

Thanks Taz. I really like that idea too. Kind of that more informal feel that I am going for.

lisa ZZ · 2007-05-29, 03:43 PM

We are dealing with the same exact thing. To compensate, we are not having an asile, but more of a walkway at several points between the chairs for the guests to get in. We are having our ceramony on the top deck of a boat and all of the guests enter from one direction, and we will enter from the other. The minister will do her thing....then 15 minutes later, the minister leaves and we have a cruise and one "H E double hockey sticks" of a big party