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[Vie]

Hi Ladies,
Don't get me wrong: I LOVE, TRUST, and ADORE my future husband and nothing in this world can keep us apart... and vice versa...
However, in today's cynical world (i.e. the case of Mrs Britney Spears, Paul Mccartney, etc), sometimes the fairy tale does not go on forever...
So, I'd like to know if anyone out there is getting a prenup or what are your thoughts on having one? Maybe you can tell us about friends who had it, did not, etc.

I'm very curious as to what everyone thinks about it...

[tanya777]

This is a sticky subject. I believe (somewhat) that a married couple shouldn't have a pre-nup because it's like saying were getting married but I think we'll be getting a divorce on day when i'm tired of you. lol.lol.lol. But i also think people whom have many assets like a celebraty should have one. Gosh if K-FED walked away with lots of Brittany's money I would of started a protest.
But again if you both believe in them then go for it., nothing wrong with it.

Heres also a fact that you should think of if getting one---KIDS. That needs to be factored in. MOney wise things change-expenses go up.

MY STORY:

When I first met my FH he had somewhat mentioned that he would make his future wife sign a pre-nup. FH does very well for himself and not getting into so much details but he's witnesses his mother taking one of her ex's to the cleaners (it was really bad-I felt sorry for this guy) After him seeing this he was adimat on getting a pre-nup. I kinda brushed it off, we were a new couple and it didn't really matter to me. I then thought that i'd sign one. So 5 years later engaged i said one day, "so, where's my pre-nup???" He laughted and it wasn't a question we weren't having one.

This chaged because we agree that we are totally equal and that everything we have/own is ours. I think having a child changes things as well. I will say that I worked as a preschool teacher for a few years and became pregnant. I no longer work and am a stay at home mom to my 13 month old daughter. Even though FH pays and buys everything. He never ever refers to anthing as being his it's always ours.
I hope a divorse never happen. If it ever does; well, then that's when we'd have to discuss things.

[beleebala]

I don't know anyone who signed a pre-nup but I think it is a good idea as no one can predict the future and this is just to minimize the grief if things do go wrong. Check out this article:

http://money.cnn.com/2004/03/19/pf/prenups/

Have you talked to your FH about this? I think one should carefully consider how his/her partner would react before raising this issue.

[Vie]

The funny thing is that FH has way more money and earns more than I do, which offended him the first time, because I suggested it, hehehe. He said he trusts me completely and nothing can separate us and I agree...
I guess I am a very logical person and sometimes a bit jaded (seeing other people's relationships go downhill, etc) so I thought it would be a good safeguard later on...
Any more thoughts on this issue?