| Not sure about a planner....here's why
I am debating whether or not to hire a wedding planner for my Oct 2009 nuptials and I have found that this decision is actually based on more emotions than I previously believed! I always thought that as soon as my fiancee proposed I would immeditately get a planner to help me find the venue, caterer, church...everything. It always seemed like a wise investment of money and I was always vocal about setting aside money in the budget for a planner. Now that I am engaged and starting to really gear up for the planning I am resisting getting a planner and I realize that it is mostly becuase of the attitudes that I receive from other women! There is an attitude out there that planners are for celebrities, rich people or cluless women who can't manage to do anything for themselves. I face a lot of judgements and my own feelings of guilt about getting a planner too. I can run a company and a busy life, why can't I manage a 120 person affair? I think that as women, we really feel like we should manage everything and be able to do everything and that asking for help is a sign of weakness, but it isn't. I am intimidated when I visit the wedding planners' sites and I worry that it will cost me a lot of money, but as sad as it sounds, I am most worried about losing the respect of the diy brides and past brides that managed it all. |